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We tend to think that the problem is in the child,
But we never thought about our own problems.

Thank you very much, Eos, for your professional sharing and discussion on parenting. Before the coaching, I was troubled by my daughter’s sleep and discomfort in school. I often had conflicts with her and had a lot of doubts and misunderstandings about my daughter. I always thought to myself, “Why I have been so nice to you (my daughter) and yet you can’t feel the same way?” After a porfound conversation with Eos, I realized that I had neglected the part of my self-care. This is a very important aspect of thinking, because we often think that the problem is in the child, but we never think about our own problems. As a result, we give a lot of labels when dealing with many children’s behaviors, which may also be a habit pattern from our original family in childhood. The subconscious deeply affects us through the process of coaching.

I began to think about what we do through their lens.

Gradually, like an onion, I understand myself better layer by layer. Because I understand myself better, it is easier to let go of what I originally thought was obsession and blame. I realized that more than half of all the negative emotions in the parenting process actually come from myself. What is going on? What kind of behavior is the child doing? What exactly makes you angry? These questions

are very worthy to think about, and they are often overlooked.  This often leads to children suffering from problems we give them before they are able to deal with their own problems. I think the biggest takeaway from this session is that I started to think about what we do through their lens. Once we start from their perspective, many things become less serious. I am very thankful to Eos for being so sincere and helpful in this process. Really benefited a lot!

In the process, I always get a lot of jaw-dropping truths. Only then did I realize that the past was like a frog in the bottom of the well, so it was always full of harvests.

After a few classes, I began to have a way to deal with my emotional ups and downs. I didn’t know how to deal with my emotions before, thinking that it would be better if I didn’t touch them. As a result, my state was always repeated, and my own unhappiness also affected my relationship with others. We were not comfortable with each other. May daily self-care allow me to know the real thoughts inside of my heart and my inner state better! It also helps me to be close to my students. It’s not the superficial kind. I really feel that this course is very helpful. It’s amazing!

Many of our child’s problems are actually emotional problems in the first place, not the problems themselves. As parents, if we can empathize with their feelings and understand them with an emotional detective approach, your child’s problems may be easier to solve rather than recurring.

Because of learning coaching, I accidentally came across with “Emotional Coaching for Kids”, a concept that is still very unfamiliar among Chinese parents, and I did not expect much. I attended the first course with the intention of learning more about my 3-year-old naughty boy. I didn’t expect that it would be far beyond my expectation. In the past few years, especially this year, I have enrolled in many online courses about work, spirituality and self-growth. This class is truly a class that I wish from the bottom of my heart that all parents in China would have the opportunity to learn about. If every child’s childhood can be empathized with, and their emotions can be listened to and guided reasonably, instead of being emotionally ignored and blamed, I believe most of the rebellion, threats and reluctance to communicate during adolescence can be well resolved by parents.

For more than a month of course, 2 hours at a time, and I never wanted to leave each class. Our teacher (Eos)’s case analysis, live demonstrations, and personal experience sharing made me indulge in the world of parenting and can’t extricate myself. BASIC parenting principles, self-care, metacognition …… I have benefited a lot from the content of each class. As the mama of a 3-year-old child, I am glad that I came across this course when my child was so young, which gave me a direction and a ruler to deal with the chaos of in the battle-style parenting process, and made me feel more confident about my child’s future. After all, the development of a healthy personality is more important to me than anything else.

The teacher also offers an emotional coach for teenagers, so I hope the class will continue when my child is older.

Finally, I realized that the earlier the better for children to be exposed with emotion coaching approach. Among the students in our class, my child is the youngest, and some of my classmates gave feedback that their children have already grown up, and some of them have already experienced some regretful situations in the past. I just want to say that I am thankful that my child met the “emotion coaching” at the age of three! Of course, the teacher will continue to offer emotion coaching for teenagers, and I hope that this class will continue when my child is older.

During the course of one month, I learned while doing it, and through interacting with my 3-year-old boy with the emotion coaching method.  Originally, I was a little overwhelmed with scenarios, such as when I couldn’t build a building block, and I was angry when I threw a toy; I didn’t let you cry when watching cartoons; I knew how to deal with these situations, such as being robbed of a toy by a child and crying. It is my favorite place, and the unexpected result is that the emotional connection with the child is getting better and better. This kind of happiness, I believe, is what parents look forward to, and nothing can replace it.

In the course of the one-month course, I learned and did, and through the interaction with the 3-year-old, Originally I was a little overwhelmed with scenarios, such as the throwing a temper when failing to build blocks o r throwing toys angry; not allowed to watch cartoons crying; by the children grabbed toys crying and so on these situations, I know how to deal with, after the communication effect is not bad this is what I like most, and accidentally reap the emotional connection with the child better and better, this kind of happiness, I believe is to be a parent to look forward to, but also nothing can replace.

We felt like we were constantly fighting with him on minor issues and not sure what could we do to communicate with him more efficiently.